Some Questions for Heterosexuals:

This Heterosexual Questionnaire has been around the net for a while, but remains pertinent. The formulation below comes from socyberty:

Questions for Heterosexuals to answer:

1. What do you feel caused your heterosexuality?

2. When did you decide that you were a heterosexual?

3. Is it possible that your heterosexuality is caused by a fear of the same sex?

4. Could it be possible that your heterosexuality is a phase that you are going through?

5. Do your parents know that you are straight? How did they react?

6. Why do you insist on flaunting your heterosexuality? Would it be possible to be heterosexual and not flaunt it?

7. Why do heterosexual place such an emphasis on sex?

8. Why do heterosexual feel compelled to seduce others into their lifestyle?

9. A large majority of child molesters are heterosexual, do you consider it save to expose children to heterosexual teachers in school and in youth groups like the boy scouts?

10. How can men and women know how to please each other when they are so anatomically different?

11. Why are there so few stable relationships among heterosexuals?

12. Is it really safe for a woman to be heterosexual when there is such a higher rate of STDs and pregnancy among heterosexual women than lesbians?

13. Considering the menace of overpopulation, how could the human race survive if everyone were heterosexual?

14. Could you trust a heterosexual therapist to be objective? Don’t you feel that he/she might be inclined to influence you in the direction of his/her leanings?

15. Would you want your children to be heterosexual considering the problems that he/she would have to face?


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Situational Heterosexuality

“‘Situational heterosexuality’ is a term I’ve used for several years when people have asked how I could have been married for so many years and yet be gay. This term has also helped people gain a clearer understanding of what really happens when someone who is homosexual marries someone of the opposite sex and claims change. Confusion about what really happens in these situations still exists and often wrongly reinforces the ‘homosexuality is a choice’ and ‘homosexuals can change’ concept.

“How often have you heard someone say something like this ‘They couldn’t be gay, they’re married’. When someone says that to me, I just remain silent for a while with a smile on my face (having been a gay man in a heterosexual marriage) and wait for what I’m actually thinking to sink into the consciousness of the person who made the naive statement.”

– Former “ex-gay” evangelical minister Anthony Venn-Brown, quotation found at Joe My God.

Brown is described by Wikipedia as one of Australia’s leading LGBT activists.   I do not (yet) have any supporting evidence whether this is a valid claim, or some clever self- promotion. Whatever his merits as a speaker and LGBT “ambassador” (the term he prefers to “activist”), it is clear from his own testimony that he is at the very least yet another evangelical preacher who has seen the errors in “traditional” teaching on sexuality, and is now promoting full LGBT inclusion in church.

In 2004 he published his autobiography, A Life of Unlearning – Coming out of the church, One Man’s Struggle. The book detailed his struggle to reconcile his homosexuality with his Christian beliefs. It won the Sydney Gay and Lesbian Business Association Literary award in 2004. The revised edition, A Life of Unlearning: a journey to find the truth was published in 2007.

Heterosexual Acts, Loving Homoerotic Relationships.

One of the nastier tricks of Vatican rhetoric, especially as displayed in “Homosexualitatis Problema”, is the uneven manner in which (approved) heterosexual relationships are described in terms of “conjugal love”, while (condemned) homosexual relationships are simply not mentioned, and the word “homosexual” is used only in terms of homosexual persons, “acts” (assumed to be genital), and “condition”.

The unfairness and lack of validity of this could be  quickly and easily demonstrated simply by reversing the procedure. How easy it it would be to lament the condition of the heterosexual male, intent only on self-indulgent sensual gratification, as demonstrated in the ubiquity of prostitution and pornography. Or, we could consider the one-sided nature of the institution of traditional marriage, marked by patriarchal domination, an expectation that male sexual needs should always be met, a disregard for the need (or sometimes even the possibility) of female sexual pleasure, and sometimes even domestic violence and marital rape.

Domestic Violence: Heterosexual Acts?

It would be easy, but I’m not going to go there. I am quite willing to accept that there must be many sound heterosexual relationships really are founded on genuine loving partnerships, based on equality of the partners. Logically, I am sure it is quite as possible for heterosexual marriages to be as emotionally healthy for both partners as homoerotic relationships.

Instead, I want to look at the other side of the comparison, at the quality of the love found in so many male couples, love which the Vatican resolutely fails to acknowledge. Read the rest of this entry »

AMA Condemns the Dangerous Heterosexual Perversion. *

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“Owning Heterosexual Privilege”

At Queers United, there is a powerful video posted asking the question “Whar if Gay Were Considered the Norm?”, a quesion that many LGBT people are likely to have at least thought about.

What caught my interest, though, was the posting of the same video at womanist musings

I cannot imagine a society in which I would have to hide my love for fear of rejection, or in some cases violence because this has never been a part of my life. I have always known that my relationship would be validated because we privilege heterosexuality. I have never feared owning my relationship publicly.

No one deserves to be “othered,” because of their sexual orientation and I do believe this video gives heterosexual people a small taste of what life would be like if suddenly their/our love was considered unnatural, or unworthy.  It is privilege that normally causes us to avoid placing ourselves in untenable positions that we are often all ready to create for those that we consider to be other.”

Have a look at the video, then read the comments.  It is encouraging to be reminded that we have allies, and that some at least are willi ng to make the effort of imagination required to approach real undersstanding.

Heterosexual Privilege

I am grateful to kevinchi, at Pam’s House Blend, for a link to a listing of  “heterosexual privilege.”  The list is long, and easily extended: it took me about 2 minutes to add 4 of my own: Read the rest of this entry »