This will not surprise many of my readers, or others in the reality-based community (borrowing Pam Spaulding’s phrase), but lesbians make better parents. The evidence from research has shown this for years, and is now accepted wisdom among professionals in the field. Here in the UK, the authoritative social attitudes survey has found that a third of British adults now agree that same sex couples make “at least” as good parents as other couples – to say noting of the comparison with single parents, or with no parents at all.
This all makes intuitive sense: lesbian couples by the very nature of things are most unlikely to have unplanned pregnancies and unwanted children. Lesbian parenting is generally a carefully thought through, deliberate decision. The parents themselves will have had to negotiate the difficult process of coming out, which is often a psychological growth experience, and will have had to deal with prejudice, possible discrimination and sometimes outright hostility in their own lives – and have learnt to deal with it. It is to be expected, as research confirms, that
“children brought up by female couples are more aspirational and more confident in championing social justice. They show no more tendencies towards homosexuality than the offspring of heterosexual parents.”
All of this by now should be old hat, hardly worth a second glance. So why do I repeat and promote the story below, from Times Online?
Because too many of the power elite in the Catholic Church and their unthinking claque of supporters, have yet to join the reality based community. They consistently ignore their own teaching that theology must pay attention to the findings of science and scholarship, and instead condemn even their own experts who state what is widely accepted by professionals, and would rather blackmail civic authorities than countenance the possibility of placing an adoptive child with same sex parents, no matter how sparkling their personal qualities or potential as parents.
- Protesting child outside LDS Temple after Prop 8, 2008
As long as the bishops insist on placing church ideology (it does not even qualify as sound theology) over the welfare of children, we must continue to publicise the findings of research and experts, aiming to build the sound theology, based on science together with faith and reason, that the establishment is singularly failing to do. Read the rest of this entry »